Over on my Instagram I hold regular Q&As. Recently I got asked a question that has inspired me to share a specific framework with you.
This element is what I work through with clients when we focus on self-esteem. So, say they come to me wanting to unlock their self-worth for better relationships – we will spend some time focusing on what we call “Rules For Living”.
Rules for living are a set of ideas and policies a person creates in order to get by in life when they lack self-esteem and have a very loud inner critic. These rules give you guidelines to follow and attempt to keep you safe from feeling not enough.
The issue with these rules, is they can become rigid, out of date, and keep you stuck in painful patterns, relationships, and situations.
For example, if I had a rule for living that was “I must be in a relationship to prove I am good enough & loved” – this drives me to stay in unhappy relationships, chase people who do not see me, or settle with anyone just so I can maintain my rule.
Whilst the rule may keep the “not enough” feeling at bay, it often comes at a very price.
Want to know more and hear what steps you can take to begin adjusting your own rules for living?
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