“It’s only the people who make the move that move their world!”
Here’s what I want to know about you… I want to know who you WANT to be. Imagine for a second, you didn’t care about anyone else’s opinion, you had no fear of failing and you believed you were good enough, you are exactly who you want to be.
Who would you be? How would you be living your life every day? How would you be showing up in the world?
That version you are picturing – you CAN be that person. Somewhere inside you, you already ARE that person.
So I’m curious, what are you waiting for? You know who you want to be and the life you want to live, so what are you waiting for?
I’m certain you’re waiting for something to happen before you become the person you are born to be.
Are you waiting for hard times to be over? waiting for someone to give you permission? waiting for a pay rise? waiting until you lose weight? waiting until tomorrow? waiting until you are less stressed? waiting until you have time? waiting until you have the confidence?
My point is, you are putting your life on hold until something may or may not happen. You can’t spend your life waiting. Waiting invites a whole load of misery, worry, disappointment and anxiety into your life. Waiting keeps you stuck. Not to mention the fact life is so short, it passes by in the blink of an eye, are you sure you want to take the risk of waiting?
I get the idea of waiting, it gives you hope that things will change one day, and that makes you feel better today. But we all know one day may never come. The best way to feel better today is to stop waiting and start acting – that will light a fire in you, that will drive you.
If you’re waiting for the courage or motivation to change, you will be waiting a very long time. That stuff doesn’t fall out of the sky. You also don’t have to wait until you hit ‘rock bottom’. It might work, sure, but it doesn’t have to get to that stage before you change your life. You have to get out there and create this life. Only you can.
That’s the hard bit – if you want to experience that greater sense of fulfillment, it is you who needs to do something different. Whether it is changing your mind-set or a set of behaviours.
If you want to tidy the house, you are going to have to do something. If you want to change careers, you are going to have to do something. If you want to believe you are worthy, you are going to have to do something.
Whether life is chaotic, confusing, lonely, OK, or life just feels a bit mehh, I want to remind you, you can be more, you can have what you desire, you can reach your goals. You don’t have to keep waiting for the right time to create the life you want.
People don’t like change, even if it might mean for the better, we would rather sit in misery than go out into the unknown, take risks and feel scared. Hence we wait for the right time, hoping at some point we will get the courage to do what we need to do.
I make it sound so simple don’t I? “just go ahead and change” she says, like it’s that simple and you don’t have a million things going on. It’s not easy, but it is possible.
What’s your excuse?… time? money? tired? too old?
First and foremost they ARE excuses. But let me take a seat on the fence for one second. IF practically you absolutely cannot make that thing happen, then stop focusing on the end goal. Break it down, what do you need to do to achieve it? Let’s say you want to pass your driving test but you intend to ‘wait’ until your child is in nursery. In the meantime you can decide who you are going to learn to drive with, you can book your first lesson in advance, you can get together what you need for the theory test. There are steps you can take now, and it will feel good.
Work on your mind-set, start the small practical steps and get ahead. I don’t care if the action you need to take is googling a phone number, put yourself in the best position you can. If your end goal is something that seems really scary to you, take small steps out of your comfort zone now and it will be easier to tackle the big stuff later.
If you are miserable and believe life sucks, and you haven’t tried anything, or you blame something else, or you tried but it was too hard – you have to take responsibility for being stuck in this mind-set. You have to know you can change, you have to know you are good enough to do this. You deserve this.
If you’re busy, if you have no time, overwhelmed, single mum, difficult relationships, unwell.. – yes, life is hard, it is. I am not taking that away from you, but still only you have the power to change and adjust. Don’t give up because life is hard. It is always going to have periods of being hard, that’s life.
I have worked with people who focus solely on the issue, when we try to problem solve, they have an incredible ability to find another problem. Get solution focused. You can overcome any problem. So if something is standing in the way of who you want to be, get comfortable and work out how you are going to beat it.
When things go wrong and you feel like you can’t take another hit, I’m right here. I will tell you how s**t it is, but I will also tell you to get back up. You can handle more than you give yourself credit for.
The choice is yours. You fight it and keep going or you let it overpower you, you stay stuck.
Life is for living.
I know you’re waiting for the courage or the light at the end of a tunnel. Take a step, a tiny one, and see the light. Once you realise how capable you are, you will feel so good, you will wish you did it sooner, you will want to do more and you will be unstoppable.
Life is so precious, it is so short. If you keep waiting to be who you want to be, you might be waiting forever. Show the world who you are, show me who you are but most importantly, show yourself what it’s like to the person you know you are. Be the person that isn’t scared of what others think, of failing and that knows you are enough.
You deserve to be happy.
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Carly Ann xx