My passion for helping women breaking free from the cycle of toxic relationships and feelings of insecurity come from my very own experience.
My childhood was a traumatic experience, it involved witnessing substance abuse, violence and most of the relationships I witnessed were toxic – needless to say my view on love was seriously warped.
The love I received was consistently inconsistent and as a result, I developed a very anxious attachment style. In relationships and dating, I was insecure and adopted many unhealthy patterns in order to keep a person close, even when they were the wrong person.
I was the girl who did not know my worth. I played small in love, work & life. I accepted poor treatment, downplayed my skills and I seriously doubted my ability to change.
On the outside; I seemed perfectly fine – totally happy & nothing to complain about.
On the inside; I could not shake the thought “is this it?”. I felt stuck, and I was crippled by a fear of not being liked, fitting in and being on my own.
If I am being truly honest with you, I am inspired by my own journey to help you transform your own life.
Three years ago I began my own journey to building my self-worth and completely turning around my self-image. I refused to not feel enough anymore.
I had let my past dictate the way I view myself. My childhood taught me that people leave, come back, leave and come back. I took that to mean I have to cling on tight to people. And boy, did I cling on tight any time I perceived a threat toward my relationship.
In my darkest moments, I thought nothing would every change. And then something happened – I took full responsibility for my happiness, my dreams and my relationships.
Simply put, I followed my Fire. I found the courage to say my dreams out loud, I found drive to take necessary action and I found the strength to get back up every time I fall.
Now here I am, inviting amazing women to work with me one to one and in my programs, I am absolutely delighted to witness them step into the very best versions of themselves.
Using a range of approaches including Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Mindfulness and Compassion Focused Therapy; I have helped people overcome difficulties and make significant positive changes in their lives.
In particular, my practice focuses on the concept of self-acceptance and healing inner attachment wounds. For myself, self-acceptance and healing has changed my whole world and given me a confidence I didn’t think possible.
I believe wholeheartedly, the key to your happiness and overcoming unhealthy relationship problems comes from treating yourself as your very own best friend. To treat yourself with the same respect and kindness you show others, you create a better mindset, enabling you to take risks, follow dreams and stop comparing yourself.
I know the transformation that this way of thinking can have.
My role is to help you solve and overcome your relationship wounds, so that you can invite in the magical, sustainable love that you desire. I want to help you believe in yourself and start living the life you have been dreaming about. It is within you, it’s OK that you need guidance, we all do.
Since making the commitment to love myself more, I have taken steps and risks that I wouldn’t have dreamed of, from pursuing career goals, treating myself better, and only accepting healthy relationships, I am the happiest I’ve ever been. I still have bad days (everyone does), but with wellbeing at the heart of everything I do, I don’t judge myself for the bad stuff, I focus on the positives, constantly driving towards a happier, healthier life.